The day I decided to be a work-at-home mom, I had the confidence that I will be good at it. I know that because I give my 100% in everything I do. Back then, we only have the twins to look after, we live in Manila and I have a sister-in-law who helps me around the house (kids included).
Life was a breeze.
Fast forward to today - we have an almost 9 year old twins, a 1- year old boy with special needs and we live miles away from family who would normally be available whenever I need help.
Life was different.
Now, working-at-home has become more and more difficult and I have been giving lesser time to my daughters while I give more than 100% to my boy. It was always a constant battle for time and attention. My girls have been pretty much understanding and I commend them for that. However, as a mother, it felt like a wall has started to appear between us. A wall that I will never be able to break if I don't act on it soon.
The twins know that Alphonse will constantly need my attention and they know that he is a priority. I'm telling you - I feel their love for their baby brother and that is why I have this guilt feeling of neglecting them for him. Add work to the picture and you have this perfect "guilt trip".
So today, I am taking the time to reflect - about being a mom, being a wife and being a businesswoman.
I cannot give up being a mom but I can't give up my work either.
How can i become a good mom and a successful business woman then? Below are two vital things I intend to change.
Set My Work Days
I have decided to only work from Mondays - Fridays and dedicate my weekend to my family. In case you don't know, I have no working hours. I work whenever there is an opportunity and I work even on weekends. So if you don't see me on Facebook or I don't respond to a customer service issue on a weekend, please understand that this woman also wants to be a good mother.
To implement this plan, I have to strictly discipline myself to stay away from the computer on weekends.
Respect Family Time
Mobile phones will be strictly for capturing memories when I am with my family. Technology has taken a toll on my relationship with them and it's time to take control of my time. I didn't mean to say this is a fool proof plan because I know there will be times I may have to check in once in a while. What I want to minimize (if not possibly eliminate) is that "urge" to regularly unlock the phone and click on that refresh button.
Maintaining balance between work and family is never easy and I know that it will take more than just this blog post for me to see the results of these changes so for now, I'll park here but I promise I will continue to share more in the coming days.
Now, let me take the spotlight on you.
When you spend time with your family, do you keep your phone away to avoid distraction or do you keep it with you all the time? Tell us more about it in the comments below!
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